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[交流] About marriage,come on everyone

According to the new statistics of  the civil administration，in the first quarter，the divorce rate has rised by seventeen point one percent than that last year and the rising rate has sustained for seven years.Suddenly I find people‘s marriage concept has changed a lot. In the days of our elder generation，they experienced much difficulty but they didn't divorce.Just what happened in our life，while our substance wealth is enough？
what is the reason of leading to this？ Is people’s endurance decreasing along with increasing wealth，or people think marriage is not important any more？
Also,If the marriage would not be happy，how can we face it and save it.Someone says child is ligament of marriage.As people says，ones transfer love and responsibilty to their descendant after marriage.I don‘t know whether it is right or
not.
Can you say out your opinion about the topic here and discuss it.Maybe it is useful for us now or future.
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lichongqing(金币+1): best wishes,wish this brick can draw forth jade 2011-06-09 12:37:35
it is useful for me, i am preparing for my wedding. thank you!
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Originally posted by ljason at 2011-06-09 12:33:40:

ljason is always so quick
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Originally posted by lichongqing at 2011-06-09 12:34:39:
ljason is always so quick

for BB
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Originally posted by ljason at 2011-06-09 12:35:22:
for BB

more suggestions more BBs
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8楼2011-06-09 12:43:23
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I hope that i can hold an right person's hand over a lifetime.
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lichongqing(金币+2): Thank you 2011-06-10 09:20:49
this is a complex and annoying problem.

why should we marry?
http://muchong.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=3244098&fpage=0&view=&highlight=&page=1

there is another classmate going to marry
http://muchong.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=3129723
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Originally posted by lppv at 2011-06-09 13:44:19:
this is a complex and annoying problem.

why should we marry?
http://muchong.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=3244098&fpage=0&view=&highlight=&page=1

there is another class ...

hehe  annoying but we must face it... keep calm heart to consider it
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Originally posted by flyingsnow4 at 2011-06-09 13:41:51:
I hope that i can hold an right person's hand over a lifetime.

good luck
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communication between the couple is evry important,so when there are problems ,find a way to communicate is needed and sometimes we need have a universal love!
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Marriage is about not only two persons but also two families. It's complicated.
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lichongqing(金币+2): Yeah，the communication is essential and important 2011-06-09 15:05:07
The diivorce rate of Beijing is 39%  in 2o11 ,The second is Shanghai which is 38%,The following is Shenzhen, Guangzhou,Xiamen,Taibei,Hongkong...
  When can see that the more developed areas ,the more dicorce rate. I think in big cities, people are more indepentent in economy ,at the same time they have more pressure of the life. The couple may spend more time on earning more money .They lack of communication. Gradually divorce happens.
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lichongqing(金币+3): helpful opinion…freedom in economic，loss of cognitive competence about marriage and being puzzled in complex society 2011-06-09 16:17:40
lppv(金币+5, ESEPI+1): The rhythm of life has been accelerated,people have lost patience ... all is so complex and makes me annoyed.I also expect a simple life. simple love,simple but eternal. 2011-06-09 17:03:29

I think it is a very complicated problem, also a real reflection of present social contradiction.
Social environment has been changing tremendously along with the rapid economical development.
Young people encounter a completely different growth environment. There is a saying that it's the economic base to determine the superstructure constitute. Now, the young ones can freely make a choice of his/her job, of the city of the job, and also freely allocate their salary.
The rhythm of life has been so accelerated that even the elderly people who have rich experience can not afford enough patience.
Our society has not yet provided adequate cognitive competence of the complex social environment for the young people , especially when confronting problems of marriage and family.
We are in a period involving violent innovations in all respects.
On the one hand, we are enjoying the huge freedom of material and spirit,  and on the other,  we are trapped on the net of material and spirit which is really depends on the intricate social relations.
I am always expecting a happy and simple life as well as this style of marriage and family.



[ Last edited by seaharrier on 2011-6-9 at 15:40 ]
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Happy every day
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lichongqing

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Originally posted by zyxme at 2011-06-09 16:17:01:
Happy every day

happy
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this topic....
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Originally posted by witch_girl at 2011-06-09 16:40:30:
this topic....

This topic is very hot,see your sweat
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27楼2011-06-09 16:52:02
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lichongqing(金币+1): I forgot to give you BB last time 2011-06-11 08:21:09
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Originally posted by lichongqing at 2011-06-09 16:52:02:
This topic is very hot,see your sweat

yes, hot..

but maybe a little unfamiliar and strange to me.
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28楼2011-06-09 16:53:48
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lichongqing(金币+2): useful comment,Yes,we should hold on with great responsibility in our marriage 2011-07-11 15:45:14
lppv(金币+5, ESEPI+1): yeah, marrige is not a game. treat it seriously. do not say dovorce easily. 2011-07-11 22:50:36
Why does rate of divorce is rising rapidly?

In my opinions, there are several critical factors to attribute to this phenomenon.
First of all, with the rapid development of economy and the rising of living standard, most people are independent in economy, especially women, they differ from women of the old days, they can live well independantly,  so only enough materials can`t meet their needs, they are looking forward to have a good spiritual life.
secondly, with the deepening of reform and opening-up, people`s the way looking at things is changing, divorce as an ordinary thing is accepted by people, the role of morality constraining divorce becomes more and more weaker. when conflict occurs, the couple would prefer to choose divorce, rather than to communicate each other.
thirdly, with amusment on the rise, one knows more people, people have more chance to practise extramarital affairs, It is said that this is the key reason for divorce. In general, the essential reason is that today young people is lack of a strong of responsibility which plays an important role in marriage.
fourthly, some young people tend to choose flash marriage, they haven`t enough time to understand each other, as the saying goes "flash marrige, flash divorce".

In a word, marriage is not a game, we must look carefully before marry, when we enter into marriage, we need more patience and understandings to deal with our marriages.
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lppv(金币+1): agree some. think twice before the marrige. 2011-07-11 22:47:47
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lichongqing(金币+1): right,it's a reason for it sometimes 2011-07-11 15:51:47
i think chinese are very easy to accept other new life-style, such as marriage.
this may be one of all the reason in divorce.
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twtonly

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lichongqing(金币+1): you means all marriages or some of those? 2011-07-11 16:18:30
Marriage is a rash decision, divorce is the inevitable result of the decision.
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lichongqing(金币+1): okey,best wishes 2011-07-11 16:17:04
Whatever the world will be due to cultrure, value, etc. The most important thing for us is in search of Mr./Miss right. Maybe the selected one will not be the most beautiful or the most wealthy, but everything will be all right as long as your company could fit you very well. So preserve own perspective in your deep heart and try to find the right one.
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lichongqing

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Originally posted by 石景宏 at 2011-07-09 18:18:47:
The rising divorce rate is caused by Lightning Marriage，Naked Wedding，and TV blind date show . Do you agree with me ?

I can not give you BBs for my lower rank than you.
I partly agree with you
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I cannot give any sugestiongs,because I am not married.
But ,I believe in LOVE.
Thanks...
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lichongqing

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Originally posted by B608 at 2011-07-11 16:13:42:
I cannot give any sugestiongs,because I am not married.
But ,I believe in LOVE.
Thanks...

you can think of it when you are free,because you will have the day finally
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Originally posted by lichongqing at 2011-07-11 16:20:37:
you can think of it when you are free,because you will have the day finally

Of course I will have the day,but what should I consider?
Please give me some advice ,thanks...
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lichongqing

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Originally posted by B608 at 2011-07-11 16:31:41:
Of course I will have the day,but what should I consider?
Please give me some advice ,thanks...

I have no idea too,I haven't got married
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i think trust, understand, and tolerance arevery important, but the most important thing is that the couple shoule often communicate and slove the problem together.
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phu_grassman(金币+1): Yes, there is much assumption in marriage than love. 2011-09-01 19:10:07
marriage means not only love,but also responsibility, etc
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lppv(金币+5): your analysis sounds penetrating。economy is independent, divorce, who pa who? no love no marrige. divorce is normal , is not ashamed now. ...thank you for your opinion. 2011-09-03 20:17:54
I think there are  several reasons.
   each other is independent in economy, this is differernt from our parents's years. in that time, most wives depent much on husbands, who are vulnerable groups.
   our thoughts is emancipatory, our value is changing. For example, marriage preceded love, but we can't  receive this marriage now, love must precede the marriage. Therefore, most yong people inpetus, as flash marriage, they find they are not suitable for each other, so lightning divorce.
  the concet of happyness has changed. if the couples think they were not suitable for each other, they will say good-bye, and pursuit of happyness with others. if they have the child, their  child should persuade the couple to divorce.
however, in the past, the divorce is the ashamed.
   attract is more and more.the certain people can't withstand the temptation.
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Originally posted by lichongqing at 2011-06-09 12:43:23: more suggestions more BBs

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Originally posted by nono2009 at 2011-06-09 14:42:27: Marriage is about not only two persons but also two families. It's complicated.

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