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amywanghebsz

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witch_girl(金币+5, ESEPI+1): thank you very much! I appriciate your words, especially for "God won't give you all the good to you" and "everyone shares the same experience with you". thank you again~:tiger28::tiger28: 2011-06-03 17:22:40
From the viewpoint of an experienced sister, your problem about the balance between work and family is really a current social problem, which most of your peers have to face to. My suggestion to you, is to think about the situations of you, your GF, and mutal families comprehensively. You know, the God won't give you all the good to you, so how to deal with different kinds of problems/choices is the required course in our life. Everyone shares the same experience with you. So, don't be so worried, everything will be fine, .
   I have a satisfied family. And my definition to "What is a good family"is,  both you couple should own good jobs. The biggest investment, the house, is a really headache. Mabye, you are so excellent to afford it. But, I think, it's unfair for you and your couple should strive for your family together.
     I can't make a decision for you, but, I think, the suggestion of your GF is the most important suggestion, which you should think about carefully.
    Good luck!
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11楼2011-06-03 13:33:06
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caipp

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Originally posted by 十二画生 at 2011-06-03 10:09:15:
the dragon boat festival day is coming, but my feeling is more and more bad due to i have to make a decision about my job after the festival. i do not have the passion to celebrate this festival. i ...

You want to  buy a house in Shanghai or Chengdu? you mean to buy an apartment? that is possible for normal people!

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冰箱坏了，什么东西装进去都会烂的。
12楼2011-06-03 13:49:02
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白若薇

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phu_grassman(金币+1): Welcome. Wish you happy everyday! 2011-06-04 15:09:40
best wishes to the youth.
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犯错不可怕，只要不犯写进档案里的错误皆可接受。
13楼2011-06-03 14:07:25
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星光灿烂9323

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witch_girl(金币+3): I think it's a good choice for you two! :tiger28::tiger28: enjoy your time~ and best wishes to you two! 2011-06-03 17:25:22
we ever met the same problem. i love CD, and he works in Beijing. His job was not bad. Although there are some unsatisified things, i konw he doesnot drop it. I can find a job in Beijing, but the price of house is terrible, which will make me crazy. So finnally, i chose CD. He came back. although he does not like his new job, and try to find a suitable one, we are very happy everyday because we can see each other not the phone or computer.
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14楼2011-06-03 14:21:45
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liuyong_xx

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work in SH,make money;house in CD
kill two bird with one stone!
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15楼2011-06-03 14:40:10
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li123cl

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witch_girl(金币+5, ESEPI+1): thanks very much for your opinion~ from your words here, we know you are considerate, responsible and optimistic. nice! best wishes to you too~~:tiger28::tiger28: 2011-06-03 17:29:55
Job,work place and  family, those are big and real problems. And what's more serious, we can do nothing when facing those problems.
Just like what you said，SH is a big and colourful city，which provides us so many opportunities. But at the same time, it disappointed us a lot. The price of the house is much higher. The pressure we have to undertake is heavier. The rhythm of life is so fast, especially for young guys. The biggest problem is if you stay here, your girlfriend will have to find another new job in SH. It  is not so easy for a girl i believe.
So why don't you  quit your job in SH and find a new one in CD? As for you, i think leaving SH doesn't mean  give up many opportunities. Because we can find opportunities everywhere. Besides, and the most important is, your life pressure will decrease. I think the style of life and our feeling of  life are what we should pay more attention to.
Anyway, this is just my opinion. As a bystander, i just want to tell  you that if i were you, i will choose an easy life, probably without much pressure and  passion...
So best wishes...
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16楼2011-06-03 17:23:34
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1043109135

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It can be hard to make a decision.
Bless~
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17楼2011-06-03 19:16:09
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huala

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life is not easy.but  we`ll finally  get through these issues one by one.
life is still worth to be sunny.
good luck~~
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18楼2011-06-03 22:45:33
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Shiningstar

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that's quite an issue!
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19楼2011-06-03 22:59:30
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zuoshiyan

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phu_grassman(金币+5, ESEPI+1): Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts. I think it's wise for you to have this choice. Maybe lz can make his decision as you. But it depends. 2011-06-04 11:28:05
I think it is a difficult problem for those who do not live together. As you said, SH is a big city with more opportunities, but you will withstand more pressure.From your words, I don't know whether your GF have a stable job or not in CD, and whether you have  registered permanent residence in SH. You know that if you want to live well in SH, registered permanent residence is important for you. And which one is near your GF's and your home？

Take my example, I got my Master's degree last year, and I began my first job in BJ. From the first day I began to work, I was so sad, because my job was not satisfied for me. Although lots of people said that big city had more chance for us, and I also looking for other job but didn't get offer. Then I thougt that I lived so far from my parents and relatives, and had a unsatisfied job, why I came to my hometown and found another job. Even if I found a proper job in BJ, I must to face the high rates and more pressure. I think living well is important for us, why not to choose an easy way to achieve the goal. So I began to searching job in my province, and I get my sencond job at last. I live with my parents together, and the job is also proper for me.That means I leave BJ begin my new life, I am happy now.

My meaning is that you should follow your heart and be more reality. My opinion is CD is a beautiful city, you can also find your proper job, but it maybe not so easy for your GF to find a job in SH, and living in CD can not withstand  so big pressure as in SH. Wish you have a good choice at last.

At last ,I suggest you to ask this question at Searching Job Forum, there should be more people and all of you have the same topic about job.

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改变心态，脚踏实地，为自己而活，而不是羡慕别人
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