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the dragon boat festival day is coming, but my feeling is more and more bad due to i have to make a decision about my job after the festival. i do not have the passion to celebrate this festival. i miss my girl friend who live in CD, and l live in SH. whether i will continue to work in SH is the bigget problem i need to consider seriously.
SH is a bueatiful city aroud china, even in the world, those want to work in the city want to obtain more opportunities of success.earning more money and having a good life are their tagets. but the priece of house is also the  highest than other cities. these is the biggest difficult and is also a reality problem.
if i want to continue to work in the city, my girl friend have to quit her job in CD and find another new job in SH. thsi is no our bigger problem, but the life pressure increases. sometime i think maybe i will work well in CD also, the life pressure is fewer, we will have a high quanlity life, even we also do not have much money to buy a house in CD
what should i do?i am not a  dreamer, i need the power to overcome the difficult.
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lppv(金币+5): in front of the big problems, we should think well about it. different decisions , different fates. 2011-06-03 10:52:01
xuanxuankaoyan(ESEPI+1): good suggestions and comment response~ I think it deserves an ESEPI. You did a very good job~ 2011-06-03 11:33:25
    Job, workplace, house and such are problems for most of us. We may not have to worry about this now. It's just a matter of time however. We will have to face them. Everyone may make different decisions, that really depends, a lot of factors to take into account. It needs considerate and systematic thinking. We all have to work and have a family, such questions are just unavoidable ahead of us. You make the right decision, then you will be the winner of life, otherwise you will be living in regret for the rest of life, or at least affected by your once reckless decision. We have grown up and have to learn to assume such responsibility now. So think twice and consult as many people as possible before we make the final decision.

    As for your case, SH is really a dream place for many people. It's inviting but competitive at the same time. You will have to work harder and endure more pressure as before if you both move there. Of course, if you have a perfect job there, that shouldn't be a big problem for you.

    Hope you will find the best way out.
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witch_girl(金币+5, ESEPI+1): thank you very much! I appriciate your words, especially for "God won't give you all the good to you" and "everyone shares the same experience with you". thank you again~:tiger28::tiger28: 2011-06-03 17:22:40
From the viewpoint of an experienced sister, your problem about the balance between work and family is really a current social problem, which most of your peers have to face to. My suggestion to you, is to think about the situations of you, your GF, and mutal families comprehensively. You know, the God won't give you all the good to you, so how to deal with different kinds of problems/choices is the required course in our life. Everyone shares the same experience with you. So, don't be so worried, everything will be fine, .
   I have a satisfied family. And my definition to "What is a good family"is,  both you couple should own good jobs. The biggest investment, the house, is a really headache. Mabye, you are so excellent to afford it. But, I think, it's unfair for you and your couple should strive for your family together.
     I can't make a decision for you, but, I think, the suggestion of your GF is the most important suggestion, which you should think about carefully.
    Good luck!
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11楼2011-06-03 13:33:06
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witch_girl(金币+5, ESEPI+1): thanks very much for your opinion~ from your words here, we know you are considerate, responsible and optimistic. nice! best wishes to you too~~:tiger28::tiger28: 2011-06-03 17:29:55
Job,work place and  family, those are big and real problems. And what's more serious, we can do nothing when facing those problems.
Just like what you said，SH is a big and colourful city，which provides us so many opportunities. But at the same time, it disappointed us a lot. The price of the house is much higher. The pressure we have to undertake is heavier. The rhythm of life is so fast, especially for young guys. The biggest problem is if you stay here, your girlfriend will have to find another new job in SH. It  is not so easy for a girl i believe.
So why don't you  quit your job in SH and find a new one in CD? As for you, i think leaving SH doesn't mean  give up many opportunities. Because we can find opportunities everywhere. Besides, and the most important is, your life pressure will decrease. I think the style of life and our feeling of  life are what we should pay more attention to.
Anyway, this is just my opinion. As a bystander, i just want to tell  you that if i were you, i will choose an easy life, probably without much pressure and  passion...
So best wishes...
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phu_grassman(金币+5, ESEPI+1): Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts. I think it's wise for you to have this choice. Maybe lz can make his decision as you. But it depends. 2011-06-04 11:28:05
I think it is a difficult problem for those who do not live together. As you said, SH is a big city with more opportunities, but you will withstand more pressure.From your words, I don't know whether your GF have a stable job or not in CD, and whether you have  registered permanent residence in SH. You know that if you want to live well in SH, registered permanent residence is important for you. And which one is near your GF's and your home？

Take my example, I got my Master's degree last year, and I began my first job in BJ. From the first day I began to work, I was so sad, because my job was not satisfied for me. Although lots of people said that big city had more chance for us, and I also looking for other job but didn't get offer. Then I thougt that I lived so far from my parents and relatives, and had a unsatisfied job, why I came to my hometown and found another job. Even if I found a proper job in BJ, I must to face the high rates and more pressure. I think living well is important for us, why not to choose an easy way to achieve the goal. So I began to searching job in my province, and I get my sencond job at last. I live with my parents together, and the job is also proper for me.That means I leave BJ begin my new life, I am happy now.

My meaning is that you should follow your heart and be more reality. My opinion is CD is a beautiful city, you can also find your proper job, but it maybe not so easy for your GF to find a job in SH, and living in CD can not withstand  so big pressure as in SH. Wish you have a good choice at last.

At last ,I suggest you to ask this question at Searching Job Forum, there should be more people and all of you have the same topic about job.

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