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[交流] 【BBC】How to fake confidence

How to fake confidence


The idea that the bigger you are, the more of a leader you are seems to permeate everything. It’s probably the reason, in fact, that we have a patriarchal society to this day because men tend to be bigger than women on average.
Sizing up
How to act bigger and bolder
As social animals we can tell a lot about a person just from the way they look and the way they behave on the surface. And there are certain characteristics that we tend to associate with leaders, or what we might call dominant or assertive people. For example, the shape of the face. A square chin signifies very strongly that this person is dominant, aggressive, and possibly more competent. If you look, for example, at a lineup of US presidential candidates, you’ll find they’re all got these square faces. And if you look back in history you’ll find that it’s the most square-faced ones that tended to get elected and that seems to be true wherever people elect other people for office. If you haven’t got those characteristics naturally, you can go some way towards making people think you have by faking it.
So, for example, if you’re going into a job interview just walking in with your shoulders back, head up high, make eye contact, very old-fashioned of us but still really effective. Looks that you own the place and people will think you do. The way you present yourself has a really profound effect on the way you think about yourself and the way you think about other things. If you dress formally you feel more powerful, more capable of dealing with bigger issues, rather than just doing small ones. Things like gestures are terribly important. The bigger the gesture, the more room quite literally you are taking up and therefore the more people get the idea that you are more powerful. So, if you see politicians talking or evangelical preachers, for example, you’ll see that they use these huge, expansive hand gestures. That gives the idea, the feeling that these are people who are bigger than they probably are. The remarkable thing about all this is that after a short while, if you do all these things consistently you actually become more confident because your brain starts to pick up what your body is doing so feel you naturally more like a leader. You no longer have to fake it.
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4楼: Originally posted by specialych at 2018-06-26 21:40:07
Thanks for sharing. It is quite interesting. It seems to tell us that we can gain confidence by pretending to be confident.

Yes, you get it.
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it's like psychological indication. cheers

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2楼: Originally posted by molmolsong at 2018-06-26 08:23:32
it's like psychological indication. cheers

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Thanks for sharing. It is quite interesting. It seems to tell us that we can gain confidence by pretending to be confident.
To be perfectly imperfect
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