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ggin

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[交流] My partner and I

We knew each other becuase we needed to prepare for the BEC-examnation. He will take part in it at this weekend. I don't know when I would take part in the eaxm, but I have to prapare for it.
   We went on our conversation via QQ voice. He told me that he found it really hard to understand what I was speaking. He wanted to stop. But I insisted that I try my best to spell clearly and loudly.
  However, on May 20th, he sent a message to me that he felt relying on me and he admired me a little. This time he siad that we really needed to stop our conversation. I tried to persuade him and wished he would continue, finally I gave up.
  A very different feeling now. We used to continue our conversation, but now I feel as if I lose something and don't know how to continue my study. Even though I told myself that I should not put my hopes on the others, but I feel it difficult for me moving on now. What's wrong with me?  Maybe I miss the guy this time. It needs time to adjust myself to study.
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wrhy

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shuixian2009: 金币+5, ESEPI+1, You 2012-05-28 19:13:35
shuixian2009: , You are so professional.Thanks for your analysis.O(∩_∩)O~ 2012-05-28 19:15:07
1 reason
i think your depression is from the fact u priviliage him too much from the beginning.
2 analysis
2.1
you gave him opportunity to impress you more than others who maybe even more excellent.
that is, such doesn't mean this guy is the best one or the most suitable for you. in other words, maybe you were interested in just a little potato. are you sure of his identity?
2.2
neither high english level nor any other technologies , which are just methods to make living, mean all especially if what you r looking forward is hands beside you for many years.
2.3
focus on one thing is merit of researchers, just like your attention to your topic, unique, deep and sharp, if the issue is really worth or proper one. such is also the reason why so many of us have suffered so much for its displaceable.
however, every coin has 2 sides. the too much care about one thing which is not balanced by other hot points might bring you  to either the acme or the bottom. and, obviously, each need strong will to address.
2.4
if you just wanna an exercise for love, i have on idea.

3 conclusion
different ways to  different question.
put all eggs in one basket is highly risky.
to narrow you eyes causes more meaningless agony.

4 solution
if you have 3 or 5 partners, or a team, at the same time, you won't feel so sorry.
because in psychology, you are the positive, and the position of u will change.
bulit new relationship as soon as possible, dont waste time , it's now, begin.

5 experience
5.1
be flexible in facing different questions
5.2
dont swamp in the sentiment, and try to be reasonable when confronting the pain, that makes you feel better.
5.3
if one tree rejected u to hang yourself on it, there r a forest waiting for u.
turn around, gril, you will find so many grey wolves staring at you with their sparkling green eyes, handsome, smart, honesty, lovely....

so, just enjoy it and good luck.


[ Last edited by wrhy on 2012-5-28 at 22:12 ]
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