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For all the ten days recently, I have been quarreling with my boyfriend about the marrige certificate. We have decided to marry this October. However, he don't want to get a marrige certificate, for he worrys about the marrige statement may influnce his job(but i can not see the influnce). As a woman, I worry about the marrige future without a marrige certificate(he said that i do not trust him).
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2Â¥2011-06-13 10:53:11
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i think it is
3Â¥2011-06-13 10:58:55
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yes. i think so

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witch_girl(½ð±Ò+1): yes, I do also think so.. 2011-06-13 11:17:03
i think the marriage certificate is important£¬sorry about that i can not express my idea in  english,and i think it is ur boyfriend 's problem,but not urs
5Â¥2011-06-13 11:02:16
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witch_girl(½ð±Ò+1): thanks for your opinion~ I agree with you... 2011-06-13 11:18:02
I think that's important, maybe what your bf afraid is not the influence about his job. wish your get the marrige certificate earlier.
6Â¥2011-06-13 11:08:51
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how could he say this?....
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7Â¥2011-06-13 11:13:00
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lppv(½ð±Ò+1): indeed many problems need to be considered. 2011-06-13 17:26:50
how long since you've been in this relationship? when did you tell him about the marriage certificate thing? what's your boyfriend doing now£¿

then reconsider if it's the best time to get married? if your boyfriend is ready for this?-after all, marriage is a big event, maybe he just doesn't want to be hasty in doing it.

Give him so time, and yourself some time, too.
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8Â¥2011-06-13 11:29:10
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lppv(½ð±Ò+2): it seems really hard to decide. Marriage Certificate is important but maybe not necessary to get it at once. getting it after the wedding is also ok. 2011-06-13 17:33:44
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Originally posted by Shiningstar at 2011-06-13 11:29:10:
how long since you've been in this relationship? when did you tell him about the marriage certificate thing? what's your boyfriend doing now£¿

then reconsider if it's the best time to get marrie ...

We were high school classmate and we became lovers in 2003 when we got into university. Now i study in Beijing for a doctor degree and he will gradute this month with a master degree.  He will be a policeman in Hebei province, but now he actually has not sign a "SAN FANG XIE YI"(pin yin) with the government. Earlier this semister, one of his chalssmate who is marride wanted to be a policeman in Tianjin, however,Tianjin didn't accept him because he was married. That is why my boyfriend worrys about the marrige statement may influnce his job. The wedding date has been settled at spring festival, so his family has already made some preparition for the wedding, the wedding date seems hard to change, so i am in a delema.
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9Â¥2011-06-13 12:01:03
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lppv(½ð±Ò+2): love and trust are the most important. 2011-06-13 17:35:37
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Originally posted by iven308 at 2011-06-13 12:01:03:
We were high school classmate and we became lovers in 2003 when we got into university. Now i study in Beijing for a doctor degree and he will gradute this month with a master degree.  He will b ...

wow you two have kept a real long romance!
Your situation is a lot like mine(before i got married on 20th,May). I was also worried that marriage might influence my career then since there's one year to go before i'll find a job and settle down, then I found out that it's not the case-on the contrary being married may help. Considering the experience of his friend, I think your boyfriend's concern is normal. However, fear from the unknown is not justified. My suggestion for you, is to find out for sure if marriage will have any influence on his future employment and by then you will make a right decision. No need to hurry and no need to be suspicious of each other.

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