木虫 (著名写手)
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As a married person, my answer to marriage is"Yes". From your post, I think, maybe you confuse the two different questions "why we get married"and "how to keep our marriage".
For the former question, it's really mysterious and interesting. I believe it's the destiny which brings the two people from different worlds come across, . Although the happiness for all people with loves is the same, yet the reason why they love is complicated, maybe there exists the first-sight love, maybe just like what says in Jimy's cartoon series"To the right, or to the left", maybe at first you even dislke him, but finally you love each other by accidient. In my opinion, marriage is only a love expression/impulse.
For the latter question, I think, marriage is far from mutual love, besides material conditions, the family background, education situation, personal temper and other elements are all important. And there is even a saying"Marriage is a recombination of two families" . Since they have different ideas and the two lovers are affected by their families, therefore, if the agreement about, for exampel, buying house or something, isn't got, divorce may occure. In additional, maybe the time is the big enemy to dilute love. Therefore, it is necessary to have some skills to solve family disagreements and to keep your marriage fresh. From this point, I think, we should be smart enough to make our family harmony by some special dates or outings, whose importance lies in the experience/memory shares.
I think, our whole life is complicated, and being alone always is lonely. Marriage is only a form to let another person to share happiness and sadness with you. I think, expecially when you are in trouble, a gentle touch can give your great power.
So, don't be so disappointed about marriage, the important keypoint is how to manange it.
Good luck! |
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