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Just because we are at the age of what we should do? Or we are just great partners in every-day life,and everything tells us we are suitable for getting married? Or we cannot bear the sounds around which comes from our parents who are waging their tongues to persuade you into the "holly paradise". Or just due to an unplanned pregnancy, so we have to have a shotgun marriage ? Or just due to a single reason, because we are lonely, and eager to have someone to kill the boring time? While right now I am living with everything all my own, I am not afraid of take responsibilities. But I have no confidence because I have doubt on the eternal love, I see so many get married and soon divoced even for trifles which are far from mentioned. One day I saw them shoulder to shoulder giggling, and then the other day I saw them shouting to each as each was the last enermy.Where did the so-called consideration go? How could they hand in hand creat the fabulous future and enjoy the happiness? So why should we marry? I think it is not only my puzzles, but the majority of us have the same too. That's why so many in big cities such as Shanghai and Peiking are living alone. Happniess modle in most of us is having a family and children around. Then marriage means a lot. But why is marriage called "the tomb of love"? Welcome for you discussion, and thanks a lot! [ Last edited by 爱与雨下 on 2011-5-29 at 14:43 ] |
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As a married person, my answer to marriage is"Yes". From your post, I think, maybe you confuse the two different questions "why we get married"and "how to keep our marriage". For the former question, it's really mysterious and interesting. I believe it's the destiny which brings the two people from different worlds come across,  . Although the happiness for all people with loves is the same, yet the reason why they love is complicated, maybe there exists the first-sight love, maybe just like what says in Jimy's cartoon series"To the right, or to the left", maybe at first you even dislke him, but finally you love each other by accidient. In my opinion, marriage is only a love expression/impulse.For the latter question, I think, marriage is far from mutual love, besides material conditions, the family background, education situation, personal temper and other elements are all important. And there is even a saying"Marriage is a recombination of two families" . Since they have different ideas and the two lovers are affected by their families, therefore, if the agreement about, for exampel, buying house or something, isn't got, divorce may occure. In additional, maybe the time is the big enemy to dilute love. Therefore, it is necessary to have some skills to solve family disagreements and to keep your marriage fresh. From this point, I think, we should be smart enough to make our family harmony by some special dates or outings, whose importance lies in the experience/memory shares. I think, our whole life is complicated, and being alone always is lonely. Marriage is only a form to let another person to share happiness and sadness with you. I think, expecially when you are in trouble, a gentle touch can give your great power. So, don't be so disappointed about marriage, the important keypoint is how to manange it. Good luck!  |
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xia_chong(金币+3): Good opinion! That's an ordinary life and common idea. 2011-05-29 15:47:22
xia_chong(金币+3): Good opinion! That's an ordinary life and common idea. 2011-05-29 15:47:22
| When you come across with someone who desevers your love，then you two hang together.Loving is such a mysterious thing that bothers so many people in all ages.From the perspective of view，marriage is the best symbol of loving ，however，many families broke because of the unpleasant trifles.On the other hand,marriage is not only loving itself，but also it represents a kind of responsibility. Marriage doesn't only matter with you two,but two combined families.What we should do is loving her,protecting her and supporting the families. |
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