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hecuihuapeng

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[交流] 【Discussion】how much money to give is proper when others get married?

one student in my laboratory will get married in a week. as for the convention, i need to give him a red envelope. how much money should i give to him? do as others or give the right quantity with my ability? in this city, give money to the one to be married is called "sui_li". and it is very serious, at least 600RMB. as a student in school, to give those money is a diffcult thing to do although i have done once in September.however, it is not a good thing when they all give 600 while i give with my ability which is far less than it. i know i'll do as others in the end. but what for? in my opinon, i think "sui_li" should be a form to show my congratuations and wondeful wish to the new couple. now, it turns to be a heavy chain.

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Originally posted by lppv at 2011-01-12 19:12:18:
to a student, 600yuan is a large number, i am not able to afford it.
i do agree with you, it should be a form to show sincere wishes and congratulations, should not be a matter of the number of mo ...

I am sure they will, if they are really good friends to you.
You don't have to give them much money for the conventional thing, you should do what you can do, that is all and that is ok.
I remember that when I got married last year I told some of my best friend still in universityto give me no money or 100 yuan. It's the most important thing they come to the wedding party, not the money they have to give to me.
I think as your good friend in the same lab, they will understand. And to yourself you try you best, so there's nothing to worry about.

So what do you think?
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三更雨~(金币+1):I think we are good friends and we understand with each other, by the way, when I get married, how much money will you give me? :D 2011-01-12 21:26:27
to a student, 600yuan is a large number, i am not able to afford it.
i do agree with you, it should be a form to show sincere wishes and congratulations, should not be a matter of the number of money.

if you give less than others, will the one who is going to marry understand you?
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hecuihuapeng

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Originally posted by lppv at 2011-01-12 19:12:18:
to a student, 600yuan is a large number, i am not able to afford it.
i do agree with you, it should be a form to show sincere wishes and congratulations, should not be a matter of the number of mo ...

i'm not sure. but to give less than others is definitely improper. after all i don't want to be a troublemaker. the less trouble the better. so i'll do as others. although  it may contain less benidiction. above all, when i get married the money will go back ,if no inflation..
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Originally posted by hecuihuapeng at 2011-01-12 19:21:34:

i'm not sure. but to give less than others is definitely improper. after all i don't want to be a troublemaker. the less trouble the better. so i'll do as others. although  it may c ...

that is ok, anyhow, you are also going to marry in the not-too-distant future.
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