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How to Love Yourself When You Don’t Know How To Be Loved.
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So here is my list of how to work with ourselves when we are hard to love: 1. Be patient. We need a lot of patience with ourselves to accept that we do not follow the ‘normal’ path. Sometimes we are completely fine with this; sometimes we just want to scream at the world and ask why we were made so differently. Forgive yourself. Our differences are beautiful. This may be easier on some days than others. Be patient with others. They are just living their lives from the perspective they understand. They are not out to get us; reject us; or be difficult. They are just working from their operating system as best they know how. 2. Talk. Take responsibility for meeting others half way. While we may be happy out there on our own unbeaten path, we need to remember that people care about us and are trying to connect. Try to share yourself with them as best as you can. They won’t always get us, but they will still love us. We can practice opening ourselves up to being vulnerable by sharing the parts of ourselves that may be fragile when bumped up against another person. We are so brave on our own, now try to be a little braver with someone else. 3. Support others. Sometimes, we can go through the motions of supporting others without really getting involved. In order to provide meaningful support and connection, we have to be willing to open our hearts. Get involved—this is your life and it’s real too. 4. We are whole. Sometimes we are so whole there is no space for anyone else. Soften your edges. Yes, I know this is hard, because the edges feel fine. Probably because we don’t really let anyone poke our edges much. But, even if we think they’re soft, it’s possible that our wholeness and independence has a few prickles that we don’t see. Make space for others. They are a different shaped whole than us. This is okay too. I am trying to learn that it not just about other people accepting and understanding me. The more I accept and understand myself, the more I can shed light into those dark corners and become more comfortable with other people. When I am comfortable with other people, I allow them in and we connect. I have friends I have known for 15 years and I am just now allowing them to see me. For those who don’t make it that long, I am trying to take responsibility for my role in my sometimes isolation. After all, I am in charge of my life. We, “Miss Independents,” design our lives to suit ourselves, sometimes a little too much. We might run off and travel or move to a new city for our jobs. We are so brave; so strong; so capable; and that is all amazing. But we can also be a bit intimidating; a bit aloof; a bit elusive; and while it is not up to us to change other people’s perceptions of us, perhaps we can work on gentling our corners; stretching our connections; and opening our souls to be seen. |
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