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00waterh

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[交流] [Sharing] if you want to dump your boyfriend or girlfriend, how do you do it?

i see the topic in a video which one training agency send the video link to me by email, i think it is a good topic, so i 'd like to share with our worms,i think it's meaningful, easpecially for those who are suffering the emotion problem.

As the song says, "breaking up is hard to do".  But, believe it or not, breaking up is an important time in any relationship.  A thoughtful, mature break up leaves you feeling optimistic about the future, while an angry or tearful end leaves only negativity and regret.  So, if you want to dump your boyfriend or girlfriend, how do you do it?  

The first thing to do is decide where you're going to do it.
It has to be face to face, a phone call, text message or 'Dear John'' letter are cowardly ways out, and it should be somewhere private.  Secondly, don't be fake.  Classic break up phrases such as "It's not you, it's me", or, "It just wasn't meant to be", make you sound shallow.  And don't tell him or her that you can still be friends or you just want to take a break if you never want to see them again!  That just gives them false hope.

Tell the truthInstead, tell the truth.  Tell him or her you want to break up, and tell them why.  Be fair, but not cruel.  Use the words 'think', 'feel'' and 'honesty'' a lot to show him or her that you're sincere about your feelings and this really is the end.  For example "The reason I'm breaking up with you is because you're not dependable enough""

do not change your mind  
"I honestly feel our relationship isn't working out." "I think we should break up". And once you've broken the news, beware of the 'aftermath'! You don't know how your ex is going to react, so be ready for anything; anger, tears, screaming, or maybe just a cold, blank face. Just be sure not to comfort them or change your mind: if you really have decided it's time to break up, then be strong and do it.

Leave, do not hang around
If you're not sure what you want, then you shouldn't yet be talking about breaking up! An end of a relationship needs closure. Both you and your ex should get things off your chests. Just make sure it's not hurtful or nasty. And then?
Leave. Don't hang around. You've made the break it's time to start a new part of your life. And sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, so get out of there! After you've broken up with someone, it's important to cheer yourself up.


Do not contact your ex or jump right into a new relationship  
Hang out with your friends. Have fun. Buy yourself something nice. But don't contact your ex for at least two or three weeks and definitely do not jump right into a new relationship. "Rebound" relationships are never a good idea.

In the end, if one person in the relationship wants out, breaking up is often the best thing for both people. How you end it is an important part of the recovery process. Try to make it as painless as possible.

[ Last edited by 00waterh on 2013-7-2 at 16:52 ]
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curton: 金币+2, Bless those who loves each other will last. 2013-07-03 00:32:47
Oh, it is interesting, and helpful for those who needs them.

It is also hard.

Bless those who loves each other will last.
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Thanks for sharing
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4楼: Originally posted by 坚持到底2012 at 2013-07-02 18:58:14
Many thanks.


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