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【答案】应助回帖
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anche456(阿飞1990乖乖代发): 金币+30, 感谢虫友热心应助！外语版有你更精彩！ 2014-07-02 08:03:46
阿飞1990乖乖: 外语EPI+1 2014-07-02 08:04:05
改了一下，请参考哈。
Do you agree or disagree to the following statement: “If you cannot say anything nice about others, you'd better not say anything. “?
As we grow up, we may gradually be aware of that in the sophisticated society, there are always people who either tell the better sides of a person, even though the person is a pure scoundrel, or merely give oral admiration to others although they are in need of fair criticism. Such behavior mostly results from the hypocrisy deep down in our hearts. From the appearance, it seems that others can thus become happier and more confident. However, in the long term, it may jeopardize friendship and make others feel presumptuous. In some cases, over praise could stop people to make further progress, whereas moderate criticism may produce better self-understanding and self-evaluation.
It is undeniable that the main purpose of a language is to communicate our feelings and thoughts to other people. If we always make nice comments about our acquaintances, definitely we are not true to our authentic feeling about them. In other words, we don’t have to lie to friends who rely on our sincere advice and evaluation, together with pure hypocritical compliments. Although some white lies seem no harm to both of us, chances are that one day when he/she finally finds out I once lied to them when they trusted me, these honey comments could turn out to be explosive and destroy the reliance and even the friendship because he/she may totally lose their confidence in me. For example, I had a friend whom I thought very supportive and understanding at the beginning until one day I accidentally found out she had never admired me or accepted my behaviors when I received an email from her sent by mistake. Can I continue the friendship? Can I rebuild the confidence and reliance on her? The answer is No.
There is an old saying in China “Bitter medicine can be effective to our sickness”. The same is true for our comments. Harsh criticism could be unpleasant to for our ears but it is necessary in some certain conditions. Take my little brother as an example, as a 8 years old juvenile with good-looking appearance and the only boy in our extended family, he never lacks praise from other family members. Recently he became addicted to television programs and behaved like a pure couch potato. He doesn’t care about schooling and became rude to other family members. Once during the dinner time, I blamed him so rigidly that he started to cry. Although he was frustrated and sad at that time, I’m convinced that my words will be of great help for him when he can finally apprehend my intention.
In conclusion, true friends do not need lies about your opinions of them or expect false compliment. What they need is only helpful advice. Consequently, there is no point saying only nice things to others. Instead sincerity, honesty and assistance are the key to eternal friendship. |
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