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    One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin ¨C to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Here are eight reasons so many of us miss out on life as it¡¯s happening.
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1. The fear of missing out. ×ܵ£ÐÄ´í¹ýʲô
    If you feel anxious because you constantly feel like you¡¯re missing out on something happening somewhere else, you¡¯re not alone. We all feel this way sometimes. But let me assure you, you could run around trying to do everything, and travel around the world, and always stay connected, and work and party all night long without sleep, but you could never do it all. You will always be missing something.
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So let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn¡¯t somewhere else; it¡¯s right where you are, at this moment. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive right now. This moment, and who you are, is absolutely perfect. Take a deep breath, smile, and notice how lovely it is¡£
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2. Avoiding pain and defeat. ÌÓ±ÜÍ´¿àºÍ´ìÕÛ
    Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be OK ¨C you just need to learn a lesson or two first. Don¡¯t run from the realities of the present moment. The pain and defeat contained within is necessary to your long-term growth. Remember, there is a difference between encountering defeats and being defeated. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know, so you can move on to the next step.
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3. Holding on to what¡¯s no longer there. ¶Ô¹ýÈ¥µÄÒ»Çй¢¹¢ÓÚ»³
    Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting past memories, and letting them steer the course of the present. Don¡¯t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let the past, go. You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you¡¯ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere.
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4. Retelling a self-defeating story. Öظ´´ì°Ü×Ô¼ºµÄ¹ÊÊÂ
    If we continue to repeat a story in our head, we eventually believe that story and embrace it ¨C whether it empowers us or not. So the question is: Does your story empower you? Don¡¯t place your mistakes on your mind, their weight may crush your current potential. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view the horizon. Remember, all things are difficult before they are easy. What matters the most is what you start doing now.
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5. Attempting to fit in by becoming someone else. ΪºÏȺÈëÁ÷¶øÃÔʧ×ÔÎÒ
    The hardest battle you¡¯re ever going to fight is the battle to be you, just the way you are in this moment. We cannot find ourselves if we are always searching for, or morphing into, someone else. In this crazy world that¡¯s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. Be your own kind of beautiful right now, in the way only you know how.
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6. The picture in your head of how it¡¯s supposed to be. ÄÔÖеÄÔ¸¾°
    What often screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of how it¡¯s supposed to be. Although every good thing has an end, in life every ending is just a new beginning. Life goes on ¨C not always the way we had envisioned it would be, but always the way it¡¯s supposed to be. Remember, we usually can¡¯t choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it.
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7. Berating yourself for not being perfect. ¿ÁÔð×Ô¼ºÎ´ÄÜÖÁÉÆÖÁÃÀ
Don¡¯t be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Do your best and surrender the rest. Tell yourself, ¡°I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment. And that is all I can expect of anyone, including me¡£¡± Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you¡¯re trying.
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8. Waiting, and then waiting some more. Ò»µÈÔÙµÈ
    Stop waiting for tomorrow; you will never get today back. It doesn¡¯t matter what you¡¯ve done in the past. It doesn¡¯t matter how low or unworthy you feel right now. The simple fact that you¡¯re alive makes you worthy. Life is too short for excuses. Stop settling. Stop procrastinating. Start today by taking one courageous step forward. If you are not sure exactly which way to go, it is always wise to follow your heart.
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