[½»Á÷] ¡¾Discussion¡¿is matrimony a really legendary grave of love?

i am going to step into my 30 year of age with a preliminary comprehend about a proverb that marriage is the grave of love¡£      i met my girlfriend(my subsequent wife) in college with the help of my close friend and roommate. we kept an innocent affection for the whole college period.we used to have dinner together every day nearly,and i always invited her to join with me dong selfstudy in classroom.when her birthday draw near,i was used to preparing  a gift for her to express my love.once in a while,we made a short journey in some district with beautiful scenic spots or historical sites.     of course there were many trivial setbacks of affection just as everything could not be so smoothly.we always quarrel for some negligible matter such as go shopping,purchase livinggoods,and even have a meal.but  no matter what had happend,i could often settle our dispute  in my endurable psychology no matter the fault based on her or on me.      we had maintain our love for five years until i proceed to my graduate stage,we married,and  i thought that i had obtained my true love.i have to admit here that my wife is a beautiful and kind-hearted woman and i love her in a sincerely soul. but just as the objective statement:wateriness comes when passion went. i take it as  a normal phenomenon,while my wife didn't think so .she thought we have lost some what we owned in our love phase and even said that we have lost some common words.now,she  frequently quarrel with me because of something unimportant,what is more,she unexpectedly feel repeatedly that i am not fond of  her and said that i  alway been absorbed in searching data and surfing the internet while neglect her survive.no matter what i interpreted,she could not accept my explain even apology.so ,have no words to say and be in depressed condition.give out my thinking here to make a letting off

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