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哎呀,迟到了
马博士好有情调啊
是“家中”哦

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zhangwengui330(金币+0,VIP+0):呵呵,也欢迎你开辟自己的科研日志专贴,可分享您的科研生活的方方面面。 4-8 15:35
支持哦!
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嘿嘿  支持一下
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zhenmafudan

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人生的成功法则(四)

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zhangwengui330(金币+5,VIP+0): 谢谢分享!!受益匪浅 4-8 20:43
zhangwengui330(金币+5,VIP+0): 谢谢分享!!受益匪浅 4-8 20:43
^_^@^_^(金币+0,VIP+0):十鸟在林,不如一鸟在手!对这句话印象特别深刻!同时自己的实践也证明要集中尽力来做一件事,才有可能成功! 4-8 21:21
Brian Tracy书里说,又一人生的成功法则是集中注意力:Successful, happy people are those who have developed the ability to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing, and to stay with it until it's complete. They discipline themselves to think and talk only about what they want, and to keep their minds off what they don't want.

I eventually learned that "more is less." I learned that the Law of Concentration is very powerful and that I couldn't be working on several things at once and end up doing any of them particularly well. So I cut back. I stopped every activity except for the one or two that were most important to me. Most of all, I disciplined my thinking and dedicated myself to concentrating on and talking only about what I really wanted.

Tiki Kustenmacher写的成功学书How to Simplify Your Life写道:The secret of successful and happy people is usually that they are able to concentrate totally on one thing. Even if they have a lot in their head, they have found a method so that the many commitments don't impede each other; instead they are brought into a good inner order. And this order is quite simple: the most important first! Even if you try to take only two tasks at once, your energy will be dissipated. Even if you deal with the second task only in your mind, you will be weakening your inner strength.

我虽然在看这些书之前就按这种“集中”的法则做事情,但是以前的博导和现在的博士后导师都是要求“多多益善”的。以前我和博导有段争论:我认为,如果我们没有把旧的电视机销售出去(即把数据整理成文章发表),那么不断生产新的电视机(即不断尝试新的点子)也没有用。但是以前的博导说:社会上有很多建筑队,如果一幢楼造好了再造下一幢楼,那么建筑队无法生存,社会也无法快速发展了。恰巧,博士后导师也是这种崇尚multi-tasking(即同时做几件事情的)的人,他老是把以前的一个博士后挂在嘴上说你看以前谁谁谁在的时候同时做五摊事情。

既然成功学书上的和老板口里的话不一致,那么相信谁呢?我可以说我看了大量的成功学书,除了这两本外,只要我看到的,大多说要集中精力,一次办一件事情,难道成功学的书都是错的?

我的答案是:不要管书上怎么说或者老板怎么说,首先问问自己,这样做或者那样做落实到自己身上行得通吗?以前看别人进行硕士中期考核,有的人说自己有这个点子、哪个点子,可以出这个文章、那个文章,可最后为什么才出了一篇文章勉强毕业?有时候,multi-tasking成了有拖拉习气的人拖拉的借口,说起来事情也在做的,但是今天做这个,明天做那个,怎么最后没有一件事情能办成的?

我通过长期科研实践,发现对于学生来说,集中精力于一个课题、一篇文章是最佳科研方式。中国有句话说“饭要一口一口吃”。既然同时做几件事情不成,那么“药方”当然是一次做一件事情,这件事情做完了才做下一件事情啰。

“集中精力”的实质是有“真抓实干的精神”,就是“动真格”的。我发现特别是到了写文章的时候尤其要集中注意力,一边写文章一边做合成实验非常困难,很容易两头不着杠,造成实验也没有做好,文章也写不好。如果同时写两三篇文章,扳扳脚指头就知道浪费时间:如果分别写,文章A三个月后投稿,文章B六个月后投稿;而如果同时搞两篇文章,文章A和B同时于六个月后投稿,这不浪费三个月时间吗?

当然,当老板是另外一回事情。世界上有很多日理万机的人,比如各级领导(国家领导、学校领导、系主任、课题组长)。如果他们一次只能做一件事情,的确“机器”无法运转了。但是我认为管理和做实验还不大一样。管理可以找不同的下级代理(delegation),稍微搞几下马上承包给别人,采取“车轮战法”。但是说到做实验,我看到的很多例子是同时做几件事情没有干成一样的。还是英语习语说得好:If you run after two hares you will catch neither.

为了证明这是我一贯想法,在这里特别推荐博文:

我的科研真知灼见  http://zhenmafudan.ycool.com/post.2731159.html

我的科研孙子兵法  http://zhenmafudan.ycool.com/post.2751655.html
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zhenmafudan

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人生的自然法则(三)

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zhangwengui330(金币+5,VIP+0):呵呵,谢谢分享!!! 4-8 20:46
Brain Tracy书中写道:A major turning point came for me when I learned two things. First, I learned that if I didn't commit to achieving my own happiness, no one else would. If my aim in life was only to make others happy, I would always be at the mercy of the feelings of ohers, whoever they might be. And I found that trying to organize my life around making others happy was an unending exercise in frustration and disappointment, because it just wasn't possible.

Second, I discovered that I couldn't give away what I didn't have. I couldn't make someone else happy by being miserable myself. As Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can't help the poor by becoming one of them." I found that I couldn't make others happy unless I could make myself happy first.

第一层意思是说,如果你自己不为自己的幸福、前途着想,没有人会主动为你的幸福和前途着想。比如说,如果硕士生自己不安排好TOEFL、GRE学习,导师是不会主动叫学生学习TOEFL、GRE的,更不用说明示在实验室里“上班”时间可以学习TOEFL、GRE。如果博士生、博士后自己不进行职业发展(professional development),比如学习如何写简历、面试技巧、找工作,导师是不会主动给学生进行职业发展的辅导的,导师在乎的就是实验数据和文章。但是学生有没有想过,不关心自己的幸福和前途,最后铁打的营盘流水的兵,到底是谁赢谁输?

第二层意思是说,生存的价值何在,是让别人(比如老板)满意吗?如果生存的价值是让别人满意,那么自己的价值就受别人的评估而决定。今天老板对自己投来一个微笑,自己就走路也有精神;而如果今天老板说了什么不满的话,自己也无精打采。如果生存的价值是让别人满意的话,那么就会给自己带来无尽的困惑和失望。

第三层意思是说,如果自己没有的东西,就不能给别人。如果自己稀缺的东西,也不能为了让别人满意而给别人。不能通过牺牲自己来让别人满意(委曲求全)。

这些话都非常有启发!比如说某博士后新到某实验室的时候,一个课题有两个负责人(A和B),其中一个是他的直接老板(A)。因为该博士后希望将来当教授需要找人写推荐信,就干活特别卖力。不但写文章接受“潜规则”给B挂名,而且当B提出要样品测试由B单独发表的时候,屁颠屁颠把样品送给B,希冀能给课题组带来用处。

本来,提供样品,真诚地和人合作并没有错。错在没有摆平心理:当B拿了该博士后的样品得到好结果的时候,博士后觉得自己很有用,别人拿了自己的样品一研究就得到好的结果了,但其实B只是认为这是他自己的功劳,根本没有任何感激之情。反过来,当B拿了该博士后的样品没有得到好结果的时候,博士后觉得自己很没用,感到有“愧疚感”。

更何况在一个实验室里面有两个项目负责人,互相依存,又互相竞争,夹在当中得罪了谁都不好。那么怎么办呢?Brain Tracy的书对此提供了解答,用我的话说:Take care of yourself, because if you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will care!

再比如说:你的老板问你什么时候能够把文章交出来,仿佛不很快交出来的天都要塌下来了。这时候你为了让老板满意而“造假数据”说“两个星期”(这里“造假数据”的意思是说明明需要一个月,但是为了让老板满意或者迫于压力而夸下海口说“两个星期”),那就是自己给自己罪受,要么事情不能如期完成,要么把自己累垮了老板还不显示感激之情。Brian Tracy说得好:I couldn't give away what I didn't have. I couldn't make someone else happy by being miserable myself.
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zhenmafudan

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人生的自然法则(二)

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zhangwengui330(金币+5,VIP+0):谢谢分享!!! 4-8 20:46
在Brian Tracy成功学书中,有这么一条人生定律:The Law of Reciprocity。

The Law of Reciprocity states that people are internally driven to be even, to reciprocate for anything done either to or for them. They will be willing to help achieve your goals only when you have demonstrated a willingness to help them to achieve their goals.

The most successful people in our society, in all fields, are those who have helped the greatest number of other people to get the things they want. They build up a reservoir of goodwill and create a propensity in others to help them, to reciprocate for having been helped in the past.

If you want to increase the quantity and quality of your returns, your rewards, you need but to increase the quantity and quality of your service. By always doing more than you're paid for, you'll eventually be paid more than you're getting now. By putting more in, you'll get more out. By "overcontributing" you'll end up being "overcompensated."

这段话说得很透彻。它的意思说,如果你乐意解决别人的(比如你的老板的)问题,分担别人的忧愁,别人也会来解决你的问题,分担你的忧愁,把你的付出反馈给你。为此,要成功,就要不断地付出;不能给多少工资干多少活,而要干超过工资价值的活,这样才能赢得别人的尊敬和帮助。

这段话说得没错。比如中学时,我们到某煤气厂参观。作报告的管理人员说工厂建设初期,资金紧缺,一些双职工没有分到房子,却不离不弃;后来经济效益好了,造起了公房,厂里给这些双职工更多照顾,分到相对宽敞的房子。

再比如,有两个科研者合作研究一个东西,结果双方贡献比例相仿,但是第一作者只能有一个。一方根本就没有提出做第一作者,对辛勤付出毫无怨言。结果另外一方(第一作者)考虑到这种情况提出以后还继续合作,“吃亏”的一方只要做少量的事情也可以成为第二作者。

再比如现在科研教育界,做了很多事情未必“算的”。比如帮出版社审稿、帮系里构建网页、协助学校举办国际会议、接待外宾、当一些不是自己“嫡系”学生的学生的非正式导师(informal mentor)、给别人修改出国材料,这些都被视为“软”的东西(“硬”的东西为科研成果和项目资金),在评职称的时候很难放在台面上说。究竟该怎么补偿、怎么考虑,还要不要帮助别人、主动承担,这个问题值得思考。

The Law of Reciprocity的意思是,吃亏的事情做得越多,别人反馈地也越多。但是,要做到专门找吃亏的事情做还是非常不容易。比如在有的国外国家实验室,向国家申请科研基金都如拍电影找“全明星”阵容一样,都是资深科学家出面的。一些有为青年、少数族裔、他国出生的人出不了头只能当“枪手”(ghost writer),把科研申请书写好让“明星科学家”出马拿钱,自己只能吃些剩饭剩菜。能做到这样,才能赢得本土明星科学家的表面上的“器重”。一句话:不但不抢别人饭碗而且把别人的活干了让别人去邀功,自己干最苦最累的活,才会赢得土生土长的人的“器重”。
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zhenmafudan

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Ben Stein妙语录

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zhangwengui330(金币+5,VIP+0):谢谢分享!!! 4-8 20:51
Ben Stein <>

p. 113. The simple fact of life is that there are so many twists and turns; and so much delay, quibbling, deception, trickery, chagrin, and deceit, that nothing ever goes as you hope and plan.

There's no one at all--movie star, billionaire, rock musician, artist, composer, advertising magnate--who escapes frustration and disappointment. It just isn't a part of the human condition. The common lot of the human animal is to struggle, work, sacrifice, and be cruelly tricked by fate. This is the nature of the game.

Where the truth comes in is how differing human beings respond to these things. Those who will triumph meet the trials of life, endure them, and persist. The people who see the cavets of life and make caviar will succeed in both the long and short runs. The men and women who stay in the race even when the track has vicious twists and turns are the ones who will reach the finish line of their dreams. They know that the Rules of the Game demand persistence as an indispensable ingredient.

p. 12. To succeed in the real world, you sometimes have to step off the train completely and wait at the station until the right one comes along. You may have to quit your salaried job and live hand-to-mouth for a time. You may have to move out of your nice house and live in a small studio apartment for a while. And you may have to work for youself so that your earnings depend entirely on your own exertions and your own success. But that success may not come for a while. You may find yourself eating Hamburger Helper more than hamburgers. But when the break does come, it can come in a big way, unimpeded by your old boss and your old job and your old limits. You will have made it onto the right track, the right job, and the right level of creativity for you. The rewards will be far richer than they ever could have been without the risk.

这些话对于克服人生的困难、面对找工作的经济形势有现实意义。

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