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Which way is the worst? Divorce or stay in a miserable marriage?
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Last night, I have a discussion with my tutor about happy marriage. Although neither of us was married, he believed in marriage and thought that even you are not in love with your spouse anymore, but when you are married especilly when you have child, you should stay in the marriage. He made some examples about his friends who's parents got divorced and the child became very angry or even hate his other parent, he thought that was very bad. My opinion is that if you are not happy, even though you try to hide, your child will always know that, it's not good for them to see their parents fight everyday. Maybe the couple are all good people but it just didn't work, so why not give each a chance, get a divorce and find another one to be happy. I think the children will understand, and it's for the best that they can see love do exist. What's your opinion? Can you share with me? |
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___ magazine founder Hugh Hefner, whom many thought would never marry, married Kimberly Conrad, then divorced and had Conrad live next door to his ____ mansion while their children were growing up Can't remember her name, but a well-known comedian was asked if she would consider marrying again after she and ___ were seen together many times in public She replied: "It's something nice to think about, especially if he can live next door instead of together with me" Each of these individuals was 50+ at the time ------- To be polite, friends often say "举手之劳" after helping each other out Well, it's one thing to say that to one's girlfriend during courtship, but quite another to actually believe that and not acknowledge effort after marriage Maybe it really is unnecessary to say "Thank you", but it's always better to be safe than sorry ------- People tell me stories of fathers promising to give their children alone time for child-parent bonding I cannot recall any of them word for word, but I'm always reminded of Walter Payton's HOF speech... the part that touches me the most The thing I am most proud of and the thing I am most ashamed of they coincide with each other. You saw my son up here a few minutes ago, and believe me, I had a lump in my throat that was so big it was unbelievable. I also have a little daughter, Brittney Jeannette Payton. And I think about her also because their mom was with me for those 13 years I played and believe me they were not good because I was not the easiest person to get along with. And because of my wanting to give to so many other people, sometimes you tend to neglect the people you truly love the most. And I want to stand up here and say that in this point of my life, that Jarrett, Brittney and your mom you guys will not have to worry about anything in your life no matter what the situation or how it ends. Because just as running up that hill and trying to catch runners such as Jim Brown and Gale Sayers, motivated me to do more than I thought I possibly could do, you three will motivate me to make sure that your lives are happy and fulfilled. |
3楼2016-09-12 08:39:47
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| To be frankly, it is really hard to answer the question. But according to my personal idea, it depends on the opposite (wife or husband) ones' choose. I would like to discuss with her to know whether she want to live with me or not one time. If she will, then we should find out the problems which exist and become more and more serious. Finally, we overcome it together. I think this would be the best. Otherwise, we should make our decision early. For you, for me and for our children, it is better. |
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My opion is that I don't want to settle, I always think that if you're unhappy, your marrige makes you feel you can't breathe, so why keep trying, why not try the other way, try to give each other another chance to be with another person. My friends said I have a big problem to say this, they say life is not easy, relationship is not easy, you can't just quit. If you quite, you might never find another one. You have to bear the problems and stay togeter. My problem is that we'll can provide for ourselves, so why settle, why not wait for the right one to come. I'm happy with myself, if I want company, I can always call my friend, there are always another choice, why do we have to endure and unhappy? |
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Sometimes, the two in marrige can't realise why they are unhappy, if more communications they make, try their best to solve the problems,they'll live in a happy family with their own children.The problem exsists to disscuss mainly because of the kids,otherwise, it is meaningless to think about it. |
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Marriage seems mysterious and holy because we have no experience at all .However, we may have some unspoken and unconscious expectations about married life ,which formed in our childhood and teen years as we watched our parents' marriage and absorbed some concepts of the images of husband or wife. These expectations, to some extent, decide what kind of marriage we want to choose. More specifically speaking they are the standards of our imaginary marriage. I still remember that my grandpa said a profound sentence to instruct my parents how to deal with marriage. The sentence goes that'', Don't be harsh on each other .And the less you expect, the more you will own in return''."Forgiveness and grace.' Until now,I'm still not sure what my ideal marriage would be like It may be like grandparents or someone else's |
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